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Tick, Tick, Tick, 2011 is just around the corner! Tired of just picking up, checking in, making time ( for some one else? ) The nifty little piece of phat for your purse, back pack, or fanny belt - is here! Buy The Pretty Little PHATgirls Pocket Pal - its all about ME! A guide for living PHAT, 20011, available for the 2010 Holiday Season, order yours today: email info@phatgirlsblog.com to find out more! Post a comment at the phatgirlsblog.com

Girls just don't want to "Have Fun" girls want to have time "To Be" period. Do you ever feel like time is running out? Do you ever feel like you are caught in the "Triple Bind "? Do you ever want to know - How did she do that? then bring the PHATgirl out in you, teach other less fortunate girls, teens and women how to be PHAT - Pretty Healthy Active Talented Girls! Learn what thePHATgirls have always known; Share a little about yourself - Gain confidence, - Nurture friendships - Become a Successful Social Entrepreneur - Have Fun and find the time To Be!

Family. Friends.Colleagues be a PHATgirl - Live Large in the Body You Are In. Some tips on becoming PHAT:

Despite this Nation's great wealth  many of our neighbors continue to starve.   You Can Help. the Community Food Security Coalition has a list of organizations working to end hunger. Give to your local Community Food Bankthis Holiday Season or start a food drive at your work place or through your neighborhood association. Remember PHATgirls are  remembered for what they did not for good intentions. It takes little effort to help feed someone else - share that good recipe  with a stranger that brought smiles of satisfaction from your dinner guests - here is how.   

Love Your Self - already there? great then help someone else - lots of girls, teens and women have never loved them selves and this lack of self love manifests itself, in self destructive ways, that include the why factor: why did I do that? why did he do that? what happened? why me? etc. But a PHATgirl can show other girls how and move a generation forward from Insecure whiners to Impossible to Stop Leaders - here's how:

Eat Right - "You are what you Eat" is TRUE - make it a mantra. Eat green, simply, proportionately and locally. Don't know how - go to Tree Hugger review the slide show for the Dirty Dozen. Rent: Food Inc. Fast Food Nation and Super Size Me ( in that order and take a friend with you ). Buy: Diet for a Small Planet, Eat More Weigh Less and Animal Vegetable Miracle. I enjoy ethnic food ( I enjoy eating ) - Cuban, Southern Italian, Japanese and Mediterranean are my favorites; OH We LOVE M A M A and our Mother's in law and yes you can eat what "Mama Used to Make" but make healthy adjustments that work for you - so eat like you like to but eat SMART. It's your mouth, be the boss.

Be ACTIVE: from the White House to the coffee house people are getting more active - we have to technology has made sedentary lifestyle more common and alarmingly so for teens ( see Too Fat for Fifteen ). Too shy to go to the gym - work out at home or a friends house and dance dance dance - build cardio strength. Work your way to strength exercise consult a trainer and your doctor - no time for showing off here! Exercise for YOUR sake. - more later.

PHATgirls: Live Large in the Body You Are In! Lovely Lady No matter where you start you are FAB. That you are working toward who you want to be is cause for celebration keep moving, love yourself, watch out for the little ones and take care of the seniors ( we are all going to be old one day. ) Find the PHAT in you and see the PHAT in others. All PHAT girls - Live Large In the Body You are Given, Think BIG about the Person You Are. Share your thoughts, join the discussion today! Start a chapter near you! What do you need to make your chapter sparkle? Let us know!

Find Peace: Be at peace with your self and others. Find time to be QUIET and encourage it with others. Noise is anathema to thought move away from loud mouths loud music and loud NOISE and find time to be QUIET.  Go for a walk ( head phones on low ).  In the North Berkeley CA neighborhood,  Oxford Street is a lovely noon time walk for people who work at University of California. Indian Rock is the final destination of a 40 minute walk round trip among mature trees and fabulous homes with gardens bursting with color. This is just the ticket  to balance a long work day spend at a desk. Picture a fun or beautiful adventure and walk.  Find a safe beautiful route to walk during your work day and find peace.  Turn your cell phone off. Report incessantly barking dogs ( after you finish your walk  ) and find time to be QUIET.

PrettyHealthyActiveTalented girls know that they can not grow alone. Remember when you were learning how to: potty, read, take care of your dog, cat, turtle gold fish hamster - ice skate, ride a bike, cook, dance, put on make u some one was there to hep you. For a myriad of reason, a lot of kids are not so fortunate. We don't learn in the dark - some one turns on a light bulb and there we are on the run way in the cock pit or standing in front of the House announcing: "The President of the United States - Barak Obama". We don't have to validate our growth to anyone but we do not become in isolation. In a recent interview Stephen King alluded to the hard copy books going the way of the Milk Man. I love books, libraries, book stores book swaps and antique stores that love books too. Read to a child - from a book, build his or her collection and make the space special and time you spend magical. Be supportive of an adult who can not read ( there are many ). Share the joy of reading this holiday season Join the World Wide Literacy Campaign. RIF Reading is Fundamentally for the PHAT!

Out and About: PHATgirls know when to be naughty and nice and polite. PHATgirls give up their seat for some one who needs it and allows a man to show chivalry. PHATgirls do not want their cell phone conversations to be heard and has respect for others, beliefs and their choices. PHATgirls do not let their bags hit others heads as they pass by do not tag people in wheel chairs and do not clip finger or toe nails out in public! ( and leave them behind ) This is a big OH NO - PHATgirls do not let the ten little ones come out unless they are painted ladies and all dress up ( no dirt, uneven lines, and no chipped paint. Toes do not come out with out color unless they are healing or they are under the age of 13 years old. Feet matter love yours they are the only ones that you have. PHATgirls do not eat smelly foods in closed spaces where others might have to suffer while you eat - respect others eat to live but not to offend!.

If you must scent yourself - please make it intimate. Perfume was originally intended to enhance ones natural order not to disguise body odor. WHY do some people douse them selves in perfume? Cheap and too much oft it is not the way to go. Perfume is intimate and should not make people faint or get high when you leave an elevator, classroom or fitting room. If you don't know ask, and take care with scents that are probably 75% alcohol to begin with.  aPHATgirl enhances and does not offend with dime store perfume or cologne. Choose wisely and wear sparingly remember perfume is intimate, scent the way you want to be remembered and don't have others talk about how you smelled before they remember your name - it is not flattering.  Learn, Become, Share, Move a Generation Forward, Listen and wear that  PHATScent sparingly.

Pregnant: - see your doctor and a nutritionist for the best way to eat while carrying baby. Mothers with small children: Watch the sugar and salt REALLY take care to watch the sugar and salt. Try natural sugar products that don't cause the sugar blood levels to spike and make your child hyper, sick or over weight. Watch the salt - manufactures sneak in salt under the guise of less fat - for babies sake watch what they eat. Don't Know: consult your doctor a nutritionist and look for free services for newborns and babies good places to start are: First 5 Counts - Alameda County ( provides services for Alameda County CA but check to see if there is program where you are and Pregnancy.org ). Wan to add to this please share and grow thePHATgirls network.

Ok so "Show Me The Money"

Money-Money-Money- M o n e y is a must listen to and memorize song by the legendary OJAYS for any PHATgirl. We all know that "Money is the root of all evil" ( I thought corn syrup was the root of all evil?) but we can control the root growth with some simple rules of our own.

1. Don't Over Pay

2. Don't Over Spend

3. Don't keep your empty wallet company with credit cards ( see number 2)

4. Know the Value of consumer choice - what the market value of items is and not what places like Needless Markup want you to pay.

5. Educate yourself - the list is LONG but here are a few places to get started.

Consumer-action.org

Suzie Orman read read read read read read

Financial Literacy

Young Money Manager

So PHatgirls, Financial literacy is the key to knowing, breaking the spell of and ruling Money.

Money Money Money M -o -n -e -y

100%= 70% use what you earn to live 10% invest in others 10% save for the future 10% donate to a worthy cause. Learn Research and Spend Wisely. It is never to late to learn how.

Girl in the Mirror: We cant do it alone

Why not be personally inspired by  women who coach. Here are three PHATgirls who can help move you toward the person you want to be: Elizabeth Ellis, Christine Silvey and Marisa Rivera-Albert,if you know of others please let me know. Conferences are good ways to market your self, network and learn. I found upcoming gatherings that offer exploration about who we are, how we can do better and why we do the things we do, they are: Leadership - December 2, 2010: 2010 Pathways to Power Women's Leadership Conference "Thriving as a Leader" Health - December 2, 2010: 50 Years of the Pill In America a Comprehensive Analysis Laugh for a Good Cause - December 4, 2010 Variety's Power of Comedy. Remember So love your self and others give constructive criticism and think before you speak - once you say something you can't take it back so be careful be quick to think but slow to react and please respect the power of language, hurt in any way you say it can leave a bruise. "More Bees to Honey" is TRUE.